This week we are thrilled to share with you, our Master Your Story interview featuring Setema Gali Jr. and announce the release of his new book “Winning After the Game.” From Super Bowl, to mortgages and real estate, Setema has intentionally built his personal and professional life to be one of impact and contribution. His life’s work? To create maximum value for others. His story is powerful and motivational. Below is a blog post supplied by Setema. Make sure you check out the podcast at the end of this blog to hear Setema tell his story.
The 7 Biggest Reasons You Won’t Achieve Your Goals in the NEW YEAR!
# 1. You still believe in “Magical Thinking”…where you believe that because the calendar changed days or years, you’ll magically change the thoughts, habits and results that you’ve had with you for all your life. Magical thinking is for the wishers. Get real. Leaders do what’s required.
#2. You’re NOT clear about what you want or when you will have it.
“Making more money” is NOT clarity. “Losing some weight” is NOT clarity. “Having a better marriage” is NOT clarity. “Creating a better year” is NOT clarity. A specific outcome with a deadline and a deep why behind it works.
Clarity is Power and once you know where you’re going and are committed to going there, all the necessary required actions become the adventurous journey rather than the boring burden.
#3. You’re unwilling to pay the price to grow.
In sports, the price is to grind in practice, the weight room, on the track, in the pool or on whatever field of play you compete in. Think about Kobe Bryant’s insane work ethic of always putting the most time in. Think about TB12 (Tom Brady) and his ridiculous eating of healthy foods, sleep tactics and endless hours in the film room. These professionals paid the price respectively.
In life and business, the price is growth of skill-sets and mind-sets and if you’re NOT willing to pay for it, financially, in discomfort, in time and in effort you’ll never get to that higher level of wealth and happiness.
#4. You still believe that “hoping” and “wanting” will bring you results.
Sadly, they won’t. What will? Being clear about what you want and being committed to that desire. There is a huge difference between “hoping” and “wanting” and picking up the shovel and moving the mountain. The difference is like two different worlds. To say that it’s massive is an understatement.
#5. You won’t develop the mindset and skill-sets to get what you want.
In order to go up, you’ve got to give up the old mindset and way of thinking. This requires a level up and massive overhaul in your thinking. The mindset is everything. Winners, Champions and Owners have a way of “thinking” which is their “seeing.” This is mindset. Skill-set? You get paid for your skill-set.
You want a level up in pay or income? Level up the skill-set. There is a deep difference between the skill to flip a burger vs. perform heart surgery. One skill requires almost no training and financial price and the other requires extensive training, study which requires real financial commitment.
What fuels the ability to develop strong skill-sets? Your mindset. Your mindset and skill-set to be able to run a marathon or lift heavy weight is very different from the mindset and skill-set required to watch Netflix and sleep on the couch. Likewise, the mindset and skill-set to produce $30k a year is very different from the mindset to produce $30k/month and a very different mindset is required to produce $30k/day.
#6. You still live off past results which you believe are relevant.
Those who don’t stay relevant and who don’t innovate, become extinct. Your past successes are great for late night campfire stories and for going down memory lane. It can also serve as a reminder that you know how to succeed. Other than that, living off of past successes will only hurt you if you don’t keep up, stay up and stay ahead. What you did last year or last week… great. It’s in the past.
Focus on the present and doing whatever is required to obtain your desired results.
#7. You’re unwilling to become a Real Leader
Leaders lead. They lead themselves. They lead others. They lead movements, organizations and nations. They lead businesses, teams and families. Real leaders aren’t worries about looking good or being liked. Real leaders do whatever is required to win. Real leaders are committed to being ridiculously and over-the-top effective in winning and getting results…period. Real leaders do not tolerate the unworkable stories.Unworkable stories are any thoughts and stories that get in the way of us getting our desired outcomes. Real leaders don’t run away from conflict. They run into it and confront whatever is getting in the way. If you are still addicted to looking good and being liked, or to running around in non-productive busy behaviors, or if you’re still addicted to tolerating unworkable behaviors you stand no chance to have the Greatest Year Ever.
Be a real leader. Lead yourself and then lead others. Stop worrying about looking good and focus on overwhelming the fear with necessary required actions to get results. How will we know you’re a real leader? Because you’ll win and produce results. Which one of these resonates with you?