This week we walk through one of the course overviews for our Master Your Story process. This is one of my favorite sessions as it really helps you see just how much your words limit your mind. How many times have looked to someone and asked a question, only to hear their response “Oh, no way!”? Now how many times have you responded that way? More importantly how many times have you said that to yourself? “Oh No Way” I can not run a 5K race or “Oh No Way” I can’t possibly go ask for a raise. We’ve all been there. So here are three ways to turn it all around.
First start by being passionate about learning. Why do you respond with “No Way”? Why is it somethings seem easier to push off some things rather than others? Take time to get passionate about learning about you. You’ll be amazed how quickly you stop yourself from immediately dismissing a friends idea or how quickly you’ll start to learn to trust your inner thoughts.
Second, learn about other cultures. As we mentioned in our session on perceptions, understanding why a person asks things can give you insight into their perspective. This insight opens your mind and allows the “Oh No Ways” to fade.
Third, Keep a journal and write down every time you hear or feel yourself say “Oh, No Way” Then take time to review your journal and seek out ways to turn the no into a positive move forward.
Tune into the podcast today and pick up on a few other ways to get rid of the “Oh, No Way” syndrome. Caution: there will be times when saying no is perfectly fine and sometimes required.
A cyber security practitioner and thought leader for over 25 years, Mark Graff is the Founder and CEO at Tellagraff, LLC.
Graff is a seasoned Chief Information Security Officer, having filled that role for NASDAQ for three years and Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory for nine. While at NASDAQ, Graff founded and chaired the Cyber Security committee for the World Federation of Exchanges the first international organization of executives responsible for the cyber safety of the world’s stock exchanges. He was named Internet Security Executive of the Year for the Northeast United States in 2014.
Graff has lectured on risk analysis, the future of cyber security and privacy, and other topics before the American Academy for the Advancement of Science, the Federal Communications Commission, the Pentagon, the National Nuclear Security Administration, and many other U.S. national security facilities and “think tanks.” He has appeared as an expert witness on cyber security before both Congress and the Presidential Commission on Infrastructure Survivability, and served as an expert witness on electronic voting machine software for the state of California. In the Nineties he served two terms as chairman of the international Forum of Incident Response and Security Teams (FIRST), the world’s preeminent body of incident response (CSIRT) practitioners.
Graff’s book, “Enterprise Security Software: a Confluence of Disciplines” (Addison-Wesley Professional, 978-0321604118) explains how to work with software developers and security practitioners to produce integrated security solutions for business. His 2003 work, “Secure Coding: Principles and Practices”, has been used at dozens of universities around the world to teach how to design and build secure software-based systems.
John A. Brown is the CEO of John Brown Leadership Solutions, one of the most innovative and powerful coaching groups in Pennsylvania. John helps you identify your roadblocks, develop targeted plans to over come obstacles and leads you to a successful end result. He works with you every step of the way. Through his “Deep Core Issues Discovery” process he helps you uncover your “why” and works with you to build a bridge from where you are to where you want to be.
John’s extensive career includes serving in public office as well as experience on Wall St. He is a senior executive with broad industry and public-sector experience – providing leadership that complements vision and execution. John transmutes critical thinking about the organization’s challenges into dynamic strategic advantages and actualizes innovative solutions to create outstanding results.
Learn more at johnbrownsolutions.com