It is Not Whether We Can or Can Not, It is “How To”

Interview with Dr. Edith Johnson

Life is a journey that provides various experiences, highs & lows, opportunities & challenges, stagnation & change.  Things happen.  However the question is not whether we can or can’t, it is “how to”.

Each of us has our strengths, talents, dreams, potential and challenges.  We have situations, limitations, idiosyncrasies that we would like to overcome.  We need to understand our many facets and the various factors that contribute to who we are.  Understanding ourselves is the starting point for determining the “how to” for our next steps in life, whatever the goal or outcome that is desired.  We may not be able to do whatever the way we have seen it done, but we can figure out a way they we can do it. 

With my background in rehabilitation counseling and being a multi-talent, I facilitate others in developing and experiencing their potential with “disabilities” or with characteristics of a high intellect and creativity.  It is a process of understanding, overcoming, developing, expressing and connecting.  The understanding comes from identifying, recognizing and acknowledging all the facets that contribute to who we are and what our individual norm is.  No one is normal – meaning fitting the cookie cutter average which defines the statistics for what we are to be in whatever context.  The first step is to clarify our uniqueness and our expression of that uniqueness.  Decide what works and what doesn’t work with our desired engagement in life.  What works, continue to develop.   What doesn’t work, figure out the strategy for managing that dynamic so it becomes an asset versus a liability.  Knowing our whys (values, what is important to us) guides and motivates us towards our desired expression or experience (our dream, goal).  To engage fully we need to connect with our self, others like us, others in general (people we interact with day in and day out), and with our big picture.

Living life fully is experiencing all the emotions to their extremes, flowing through the experience, and not getting stuck.  Understanding our self includes knowing our center so that we can return to center for balance and rejuvenation.  Emotional exhaustion requires our attention just like physical exhaustion.  Self-care is the grease that keeps the wheel of life moving more smoothly.  Engaging in life fully means the full ride of the roller coaster with its ups, downs, and plateaus.  The “how to” is with awareness, understanding and choosing in the moments from our center with the guidance of what is important to us in life (our values, our purpose, our dreams, our connections).

The question is not whether we can or can’t, but how to.

Leaders and Stories How do They Fit?

An interview with leadership and training coach Cheyenne Bennett

Cheyenne Bennett is the Leadership & Talent Coach of Compass Point Consulting, LLC. She is a leadership trainer focused on serving family businesses. She helps owners and their leadership teams grow their self-awareness with the purpose of cultivating high-performing teams and driving organizational culture. Her focus on self awareness, communication, healthy conflict, and teams gives organizations the ability to create and live by a value-oriented organizational culture while meetingthe demands of daily business.

Speak Confidently with Naimah Ward

Naimah Ward is one who believes in the power of discovering your true self, your true purpose and then being in pursuit of what you have discovered as long as it lies within the scope of truth. As a devoted Wife, Mother, Pastor, Professor and Entrepreneur, Naimah has made this her personal mission to impact lives – Find a need and meet it! Find and hurt and heal it! Find a problem and solve it! Below is a guest post from Naimah.
My turning point occurred when I began to realize the value in developing not just my skills to speak publicly, but my communication skills overall! Oh what an amazing eye opener this was for me! During my collegiate studies, I decided to challenge myself and enroll in an advanced public speaking course. After experiencing the benefits of facing this fear head on, I began to see how my life started to evolve. Fear no longer had me in its grip. I developed such a passion for the art of communication and public speaking. As an educator, I teach my students not only how to overcome glossophobia, but the process of how to develop into an effective communicator.
In my pursuit of developing strong and effective communicators, I started my business Speak Confidently, an organization with the purpose to educate and train students and professionals in the area of communication and public speaking. In doing so, I offer training programs such as Boot Camps, Master Classes, Small Group Professional Trainings and One-on-One sessions.
Because I have walked this path, it gives me great gratification seeing my students and clients enter with such fear and uncertainty, and after weeks of teaching, pursue new heights in life as a result of discovering who they really are. How? It’s simple – the study and understanding of communication, goes far and beyond what one may assume. Your perception – how you view yourself – greatly affects how you communicate with yourself and others. My truth is – Knowledge and Understanding equips you to become more Effective!